“In an age when so much envy-inducing relationship content is packaged for public consumption, it’s worth aiming for a marriage that won’t compute (to paraphrase Wendell Berry). Stockpile references that are incomprehensible to outsiders, inside jokes that are teeth-grating for onlookers, and then don’t worry when you forget where they came from in the first place.” I really loved this essay. Thanks for the shoutout, too.
What a moving piece. The analogy to addict behavior—! Happy to have read this as a young woman prior to marriage; I'm tucking it away for future reference.
Reading this reminded me of lines from two poems: the "intimate patois" in Dana Gioia's "Marriage of Many Years" and especially "For C." by Richard Wilbur, about a long love "... Which has the quality of something made,
Love the idea of marriage as a work of art you have to show up to every day. Definitely the most encouraging and beautiful thing I’ve read on marriage in a long time!
reading such a beautiful book about marriage and the way it breaks you down and builds you up called “Mystery of Marriage” by Mike Mason. Definitely recommend. Wonderful piece!
So many amazing paragraphs in this, I wanted to restack them all!! Thank you for sharing these beautiful thoughts - as a newlywed and a writer, they really spoke to me.
“In an age when so much envy-inducing relationship content is packaged for public consumption, it’s worth aiming for a marriage that won’t compute (to paraphrase Wendell Berry). Stockpile references that are incomprehensible to outsiders, inside jokes that are teeth-grating for onlookers, and then don’t worry when you forget where they came from in the first place.” I really loved this essay. Thanks for the shoutout, too.
What a moving piece. The analogy to addict behavior—! Happy to have read this as a young woman prior to marriage; I'm tucking it away for future reference.
Reading this reminded me of lines from two poems: the "intimate patois" in Dana Gioia's "Marriage of Many Years" and especially "For C." by Richard Wilbur, about a long love "... Which has the quality of something made,
Like a good fiddle, like the rose’s scent,
Like a rose window or the firmament."
Love the idea of marriage as a work of art you have to show up to every day. Definitely the most encouraging and beautiful thing I’ve read on marriage in a long time!
reading such a beautiful book about marriage and the way it breaks you down and builds you up called “Mystery of Marriage” by Mike Mason. Definitely recommend. Wonderful piece!
Great essay!
This was really beautiful. Thank you for writing it.
Very interesting article. Lots of thought provoking ideas, especially the one regarding how we potentially connect consumerism and relationships.
This was lovely. Thank you for it.
Loved this! Thank you 😊
So many amazing paragraphs in this, I wanted to restack them all!! Thank you for sharing these beautiful thoughts - as a newlywed and a writer, they really spoke to me.
good write,